Ask Coco
Hi Coco
Been a follower for a few years & have always admired your strength and beauty. You just radiate a golden light and it’s the greatest.
My boyfriend of 11 years has recently been suffering with a mix of symptoms, mostly severe back pain and drastic weight loss. He ended up in the hospital for a week where they discovered a mass in his colon. It’s been about a month and we’re awaiting PET scans/MRI to get more answers to find out if it’s metastatic. We have a 6 month old baby girl together, I’m a post partum momma trying to raise my baby and homeschool my son. I’ve had a lot on my hands to begin with. Now with the diagnosis, further weakening and constant pain. He is unable to help me care for the kids and can barely manage his pain symptoms. Drs wouldn’t refill his pain medication over the phone and the closest appointment is still a couple weeks out. I’ve been able to stay strong for the most part, but it builds up and when I’m sleep deprived I can barely handle anything. The emotions hit full frontal and I end up breaking down in panic attacks. It’s just a lot of pressure and I feel so helpless and useless to his pain. I’m always readily available to massage his spasms and help him through it. It’s such a huge dynamic change for us, I miss being cared for and taken care of too. I understand it’s on me to love and take care of him, I just wanna learn to cope with these changes and have hope the days will get better again . Both of our families live far from us 7+hr drives, so I don’t have help readily available. I’m nervous for what’s to come and how our future may change.
My boyfriend lost his father to colon cancer at an early age and this diagnosis is hitting hard. it’s doubly scary. The drs are suspecting lynch syndrome and testing out for HLH but the wait for those answers has been torturous. How can I help his mental state through beyond what I’ve been able to do? and mine?
